Key ideas

• Our experience is already perfect, whole and complete as it is.

• Paradoxically, there is also an impulse within us towards greater wholeness. Our parts really want to be seen by us, and brought into awareness.(A: Only parts know what they really want)

• We can come to more deeply trust and surrender to this impulse and develop the capacities to fully allow our parts as they are.

• bring awareness into all the ways our experience is not being taken as perfect

Making it concrete

Not allowing our experience as it is, takes the appearance of trying to fix, change, manage, control or avoid our experience in some way.

For example, if you're a people pleaser, you might try to manage your pleasing—by either putting up with it or avoiding situations where you have to please. If you're angry, you might try control your anger, through suppression, denial, or finding ways to “let it out”. If it isn't safe to express your needs, you’ll manage that lack of safety. If it's not safe for you speak up for yourself, you'll withhold your expression. If you're having a painful experience like sadness, heaviness, feeling lost, you'll try to fix that state, step over it, or get past that experience in some way so you can have a different experience.

How this can often look is a conflict between two parts of ourselves: One part of us feels one thing, then another part tries to fix or interfere with that. What we can learn to do is bring presence and openness to these dynamics, allowing more fully these parts of ourselves to be there. When we do this these parts tend to dissolve in their separateness and integrate themselves, unlocking our vitality and aliveness.

Fundamentally, our being is already in a life process, attempting to become more whole, and we can learn to surrender to that life process. Trusting in this process that’s already happening is the gateway to deeper joy, aliveness, trust in life, elimination of suffering, and real freedom and love.

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Emergence

The twist here is that our life process is deeply intelligent, emergent, and non-linear. It’s not bound by our narrow conceptualisations of how that whole-ing process should look--which is why this takes humility and surrender. At any given moment we don't know how our being wants to unfold into greater complexity, consciousness, truth, and love, but if we surrender in the present moment, the path will reveal itself.

This might look like: If we're trying to fix our experience, actually being more with the fixing itself than trying to get rid of it. It also might look like dropping the fixing entirely, or noticing there's some other subtle part of our experience in the background we didn't notice, or simply staying with the fixing and the resistance, fully feeling it and allowing it to play out. What we are saying is that if we ….. simple way of saying rather than top-down we can follow the greater wholeness/surrender

Although there will be structure to support this process, ultimately we must embrace emergence, surrendering to what actually wants to happen at the moment. This is why the course is grounded in the context of Surrendered Leadership. We’re stepping into the unknown together.

That said here are some of the themes we’ll be exploring together in the sessions:

Capacities

• Discerning our parts

• Embodying our parts

• Dis-identifying with our parts

• Ability to stay with discomfort

• Staying with not-knowing

• Ability to hold polarity and ambivalent parts

• Skilfully bringing parts into connection

• Staying in contact with the nervous system